Single Mom and Motherhood

I've realize in the whole spectrum of dating there is a double standards in dating a single mother/father. Just recently one of my good friends from work introduce me to a guy that she's been friends with for awhile. She spoke so highly of him, and although I'm not in the market at all to date anyone yet alone have a relationship with anyone, but I figured I would humor myself and meet this wonderful guy I heard so much about. Things were going great, and it seems like he was into me, until I told him I have a child. A one year old little boy whom I love so much. He's my life and I would die for him. All of a sudden it was a big deal, or in his words the "deal breaker." My friend then tells me that other men look at my son as baggage... I think in my mind, I cursed about 15 times in the first 30 seconds of hearing what she just said. Why is that when my ex, who is now dating, tell girls that he has a son, they think it's cute? Double standards eh?

Girls night out, my friend Wild and I

Any man who thinks my son is baggage, is not a man at all. Who the heck do you think you are to sit there and call my son baggage? He's a wonderful little boy, my heart and soul. I don't care who you are, what you do and how much you make a year. You will never be a man, on another note, you don't even believe in God. Hence why you are so pathetic, immature, and self centered. You will never know what it means to love, until you love a child. I thank God every morning for this beautiful blessing, and I thank God for giving me enough common sense to look at you and not feel as if I'm missing out on something great, for you are the one that's missing out on something great! A love so great, a love so wonderful I experience everyday. Through the grace of God, I am able to love the way a parent should, the way God loves his child. Amen!

I'm very happy, and enjoying being a mom. Not just any mother, a Christian mother. I find a sense of accomplishment everyday because I am able to raise my son in the Christian faith. If I didn't have God in my life, and Jesus Christ as my savior, there would be no hope, no faith and no love between my son and I. Any parent can love a child, but it takes a stronger parent to lead by example and to show their child that they must live their life for God. As a single mother I find it harder to raise my son without his father under the same roof, BUT I do feel that God will big a greater example as to what a father should be. Through the words of the bible as well as the teaching of my Pastor, I know my son will grow up to be a fine man one day. To that, it will make me a proud mother one day.

Just Mommie and Me!

Although my mother doesn't feel that I'm being the best mother possible to my son; I know I am. The reason why I feel that way is because one, I'm raising my son to be a strong Christian. Two, it doesn't matter what you buy for your child, or how much money you have. God will bless you and what matters most is the time spent with your child. Growing up in a single household with my mother, she would never take us on vacation, unless it's with my aunt's family. She always made this silly excuse that since we don't have a man in our family she was afraid to travel alone. In fear that something might happen, and she's going to be strained out in the middle of no where. I understand that part, but if you travel smart, and plan your trip accordingly, I'm pretty sure you will be just fine.

Since Ryan's father and I aren't together, I won't let that be an excuse to why I won't be able to take my son out on vacation or do things with him. I will take him on his first vacation next summer, I don't know where yet, but I'm keeping my mind open. I realize that life doesn't stop when you are a single parent. Life must go on, I will continue to experience life with my son as a single mother. This past weekend I took Ryan out, we didn't go trick or treating since it was very cold outside. Instead I dressed up my little ham in his Mickey Mouse costume, and I dressed up as Minnie Mouse. We then headed to Bob Evans for dinner with a few close friends of mine and had a nice dinner with them. I was very proud to parade my son in his costume around Bob Evans, so many people couldn't stop smiling at him. Even a nice older man purchased Ryan a stuff animal and my heart just melted. I don't ever remember a time where my mom and I went out to eat, with just us two. I don't think we ever did. I do not fault my mother at all for being the way she is. I'm very Americanize and the way I raise my son is a custom to the American tradition and culture. Times has change and who ever said a singe parent can't be a completed family? My family is complete because we have God. Until the day God blesses me with a wonderful husband, I'm content as ever to be a single mother.

Happy Halloween baby! I hope you enjoyed it as much as mommie did, I love you!